True Love

I heard this story from my friend some time ago:

A young academically excellent person went to apply for a management trainee position in a big firm. He passed the first interview. He went for a second interview with the director of the company who was to make the final decision. During the interview, the director read from the CV that the youth's academic results were excellent all the way from his secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year he didn't score.
The director said to the youth, "Your resume looks very good to us. Have you obtained any scholarships in school?"
The youth replied, "None, sir."
The director asked, "Is it your father who paid for your school fees?"
The youth replied, "No, sir. My father passed away when I was one. It's my mother who paid for my school fees."
The director asked, "What is your mother's profession?"
The youth replied, "She's a cloth cleaner."
The director then asked the youth to show his hands to him. The youth's hands looked soft and smooth to the director.
The director asked, "Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?"
The youth replied, "Never, sir. My mother always wanted me to study hard and read more books when I had spare times. Besides, my mother could wash clothes much faster than I."
After a few other conversations, the director said to the youth, " We are very pleased with your academic achievements. But I have a request. When you go home tonight, go and help clean your mother's hands, and then come back to see me tomorrow morning."
The youth had the feeling his chance of getting the job was very good. But he wasn't sure why the director asked him to clean his mother's hands. Anyway he went home that evening, and happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. The mother felt flattered and showed her hands to her kid.
The youth held his mother's hands, and cleaned them slowly. Tears began to fall down as the son started to clean the mother's hands. That was the first time the son noticed the mother's hand were so rough, wrinkled and full of bruises. Some bruises were so severe that the mother shivered as water ran over the skin while being washed. The son then realized it was this very pair of hands that earned him the school fees all these years. The bruises in the hands were the price the mother paid for his graduation, his academic excellence and probably his future.
After finished cleaning his mother's hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother. That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, and asked, "Can you tell me what you did in your house last night?"
The youth answered, "I cleaned my mother's hands, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes."
The director asked, "Can you tell me your feeling?"
The youth said, "First, I know what appreciation is. Without my mother, I would never be what I am today. Second, working together with my mother, I can realize how tough and hard to get things done, as my mother did in the past. Third, I know the importance and value of family relationship."
The director said, " Good. This is exactly what I'm looking for. I want to recruit a person not only has good academic training and knowledge, but also the ability to appreciate others' help and difficulties when getting things done. I don't want to recruit a person who just put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired."
Later on, this young person worked very hard and earned the respect from his subordinates. Every staff worked diligently under him as a team. The company's results improved significantly.

If a child was brought up in a fully protected environment, and was given whatever and whenever he wanted, he tended to grow up as a self-centred person who would always take things for granted and always put himself first. He would be ignorant of the parents' efforts and difficulties. When he started work, he would assume people always listen to him, and would blame others whenever he encountered setbacks. When he became a manager, he would not understand his staff's problems and concerns. He might have good results and would be successful in the short term. But in the long run, he would not have good sense of satisfaction and co-operations, and would be unlikely to attain higher achievements. As parents, do we love our kids or spoil them?
Whether we can afford to live in big houses, have maids to serve the family and provide our kids with good educations, learning pianos, watching large TVs and playing latest video games, don't just raise our kids inside the greenhouse. Do give the kids the chance to experience the real life; be it good or bad, easy or difficult, rich or poor, success or failure. Let them help planting trees and flowers when you do the gardening, have turns to wash dishes after meals, and clean the house during holidays. Show them the poor and needy on the street and encourage them to show their concerns and helps to the less fortunate in the community. We love our kids. We want them to become capable persons in the future, be able to appreciate the efforts and difficulties of others, have abilities to work with others to get things done, and have the willingness to provide their contributions back to the family and to the society at large.